My children wanted what they wanted. They would protest when they did not get their way. Children use aggressive tactics like stamping their feet, begging, crying, or even tantrums. I would, as most parents do, react with negative attention when appropriate, positive attention when possible, or even sometimes ignore them.
|A child's emotions are tyrants |
which we must as parents usurp.
Everyone is in a minority of one kind or another; gender, race, creed, habit, or desire. We all are a unique combination of inheritance and choice. She wants fair pay for fair work. He wants a job, any job. They want to carry guns. That fella wants to build stuff. This gal wants to save all the babies. Those people want a mosque. Nature conservators. Resource exploiters. Church goers. Football fans. Men haters. So many ways to build a mind and life.
Every rule that society makes threatens the rights of others. Saving trees hurts lumberjacks. Carrying guns means more gun deaths. Rules on business to protect workers from danger slows down the economy. Building roads leads to more air pollution. Health care to save more lives causes income redistribution. On and on and on.
In systems of majority rule, like a democracy, there is a tendency toward “tyranny of the majority”. John Adams in his campaign to pass the U.S. Constitution, is the first known use of these words; “tyranny of the majority”. He understood it to mean “the superior force of an overbearing majority.” On occasion, majority tends towards “mob rule” where active or passive violence is done by many upon a few. In fact, we enable our government by giving it the right to use violent means to impose our will.
|One view of polygamy.|
Most of us in our culture think polygamy is bad. I do not support polygamy. We base our opinions on our religious belief or upon examples of abusive relationships we read about. News items from Texas and Utah alarm us as an evil. Christians quote scripture as a moral demand for the wrongness of polygamy.
|Another view of polygamy.|
A person of Islamic faith could make a strong moral argument from their religious/moral viewpoint that they are acting for good by allowing polygamy. They have a strong view of right and wrong that is at odds with mine. I'm not saying that polygamy is right for our culture. Rather that our absolutist view of polygamy is deeply tied to other viewpoints we choose to have.
|Diverse veterans have already learned tolerance.|
We must make laws that enforce public will. We must also be careful not trample on those who are weak. Law is a heavy hammer. It can smash down those in a minority. If we are totally uncompromising in a viewpoint and use arguments like "might is right" or “this is what the majority wants” we tend to dehumanize others who do not think like us.
|Should we tolerate him?|
Teaching our children tolerance is perhaps the most effective means of giving them wisdom that will prevent tyrannies of the majority. From tolerance we all can learn to accept the needs and desires of others, not just our own. As adults we should set an example. Learning to live with people we disagree with is an act of maturity that more of us grown ups should strive for.