Sex is fun. Sex is for procreation. The tension between these two facts is a current pushing many of society's controversies. Marriage, birth, struggle for resources, and more are all tied to our sexuality. Part of our definition of morality comes from how, when, who, where and why we have sex.
|Won't you be mine?|
Lovemaking is a delight. Nerves from all our senses trigger endorphins in our brain. Smell, touch, sight, and even the sound of our lover all release rushes of these hormones. Memories of these sensations drive us in anticipation. Memories of these sensations give us comfort when far apart.
Copulation is for conception. Animals reproduce by sharing genetic material. Egg and sperm unite, combining codes into something new, yet similar to both partners. We are biologically driven to make babies with the onset of puberty. Our physical maturity gives our offspring the best chance for survival.
|Lust for the fit!|
Our first experiences of sex are usually mechanical and surprising. “Gosh, that felt good!” or “What the heck was that?” are common experiences of unexpected physical stimulation in early adolescence. The brain is hardwired to seek out the endorphins produced by sex.
In puberty we begin to think about “the other” differently. We experience almost overwhelming desire. We begin to be driven to competing for the ability to procreate with the fittest around us. Our first clumsy attempts to eliminate our competition and attract potential mates are a hallmark of this age.
|Until death do us part...|
Family and culture push and pull at us, creating our individual thoughts on sex. We define rules and institutions that will enable better reproductive chances for our offspring. Marriage is a social structure that defines our basic sexual practices.
Calls to abstinence exemplify the virtue of self discipline. Birth control attempts to side track desire's result. Abortion is sought to overcome abstinence and birth control's failure.
We wish to protect children from reproducing too quickly. Often we do not teach them about sex with the hope they will not be tempted. Bodies overwhelm our intent and ignorance often leads children to tragedy. Clear conversations of understanding promote healthier attitudes and give will the chance to halt desire.
Parents push our offspring to reproduce quickly once married. We desire to see our strand of the chain of life continue forward. We fear our gene set becoming extinct, especially while we are alive to have any control of the outcome
Love's Labor Won
Even the word “love” itself contains the inner struggle for reproduction. We express our adoration, our respect, our desire to do better for the other when we tell them of our “love”. The drive to procreate, to copulate with wild abandon is also called “love”.
Love's meaning evolves through life as a basic part of maturity. We slowly grow from lust for the other to honor in their service. The effort of passion gives way to the labor of kindness.
We start holding hands one way and we end holding hands another.
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